As Winter states, "even if you're in a roundabout way seeking attention, you are in their real area.

the fact you are in their sphere can make interior conflict."

While this might not be effortless then you can create a schedule that works around when and where your partner will be in your apartment if you live together, if you're cognizant of what you need to do for the sake of the relationship. That interior conflict that Winter mentions will probably develop if one thing is not done and that is precisely one thing you do not wish.